My ex girlfriend is dating someone else
I was very skeptical of them forming something together, but kinda had my mind eased as she said they were joining their freelance businesses and working of a lot of big projects. Well I just found out two days after the hike that they are seeing each other. Do I have a chance here?
Seems like a rebound but high risk if there is a lot of work and money at stake. What do I do now? Ask her if they are a thing then just let it roll off my back like I don't care because I'm in a good place and tell her there is still hurt and its best to not be in contact for a while? People can be irrational when it comes to emotions, disregarding professionalism.
You could let her know that it hurts and go into NC for the time being while they're dating. Hi Ryan, I've lived in London with my girlfriend who was from Argentina for the past three years. We had an incredible connection and lived what we both agreed and still do was the best 3 years of our lives, our friends, family all loved what were together.
She began to miss her family and country and got the point where she wanted to move back to Argentina to "see how she felt" and whether she wanted to stay in the UK and get married etc, of which I totally understood. So we broke up and she moved away.
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During the first two months apart, there was a lot of communication between us and I have to admit I became very needy and desperate for her to come back very unlike myself.. It got to the point though where I was just causing sadness in her life as I was upset about her leaving, and she told me she was going to move on.. I think I must have made every mistake in the book! A week after this, I found out she had already met someone else and is moving on.
Again, I made a massive mistake by losing my shit when I found out about her being with someone - mainly because she had continued to string me along with hope until the day I heard about the new person, and it really really hurt. She said that when she met this new guy, It made her realise she didn't want to fight for me as she was attracted to him. A lot of the pain lies in the fact that if we weren't born so far apart, we both admit that we would have been together for life. We were so perfect before this ordeal and I feel my neediness made her fall out of love with me and into the arms of another man.
I had never been needy, desperate or jealous once within the relationship. It's been about three weeks now of sparse contact and the last email I sent yesterday was an email to her apologising for my neediness and that I respect her decisions which I actually do and I wish her the best. She sent me an email apologising for her actions and saying I would always be in her heart and that the best memories of her life were with me.
What course of action do you think I should take I keep wondering if I hadn't been trying to convince her to come back, the outcome may have been totally different. You might want to consider several options depending on where you stand and given the circumstances:. Most of this year we were together but I kept her at an arms length and was not committed to the relationship and was honest about it. A few weeks ago we had a blow out where she basically told me she just wanted me to tell her I could guarantee we'd be together at some point.
I told her no relationship is a guarantee but I wanted to work on things. She told me she was going out with friends that night but she would call me when she got off work. She didn't call so I texted her and asked what's up. She texted me back something along the lines of "it's not the right time, i'm sorry, i'll always love you. She text back and said she loves me and hates me so much. I asked her to come home and she said no she was staying out late. Like a stalker, I drove by her house shortly after and she was coming home. I asked what was going on and she told me she went out with another guy someone she mentioned before but that she came home because she was confused and wanted to figure things out.
Long story short, we were kinda sorta together over the past week but I was needy, clingy, etc.
Part 3: Healing During No Contact When she is dating someone else
This Friday she said she was going out again and after not hearing from her all night, I drove by her house at 5am stalking again I know and her car wasn't there. Rather than waiting for another lie I texted her that I was hurt and couldn't believe it was so easy for her to leave me for someone she barely knew and that my time with her was the best of my life and goodbye. I realize I just pushed her right into this other guys arms but my question is, do I try and reach out and tell her it will hurt me if she sleeps with this other guys and I'm working on things, or do I just institute no contact?
If I can stop things before she moves forward I want to, but I can see how she just has the desperate image of me stuck in her mind right now. In the meantime, I've been following the advice of the guides and started working on myself and haven't done any more crazy texting, calling, etc.
Your Next Step If Ex Girlfriend Is Dating Someone Else
It would be better to initiate NC, as the former idea would probably push her further away because of the impression she may hold over you at this point. Brilliant article this, pretty much how my ex is behaving, she is moving in with her rebound after two months, I have grew immensely over the two months, would say I'm better than ever on many cases. Only issue I have is she won't contact me back, although I feel like her new guy is stopping that in every way, do you have any advice to get over that part as waiting around is the hardest thing.
She did move over from Canada to the UK to be with me, she is also still wearing my previous engagement ring although she has blocked me on everything minus WhatsApp and texting. Any advice I'd be most grateful. Waiting becomes hard if all you're focused on is actually waiting around, and each day becomes a torture and passes by really slowly.
I would suggest putting yourself back out there, for the time being, developing new lifestyle habits and essentially just focusing on yourself. Consider even dating again in the meantime if you feel ready , since she is currently also doing the same and let opportunity present itself before deciding on an action to take.
Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Even if She has Moved on to a New Boyfriend (Without Looking Desperate)
If my ex went to talk to someone new, and I realize that the person has had some small trouble with the law. And has is seeming lying about some things. Can I, out of concern of possible safety, point that out to my ex? Or is that considered comparing? Your ex might consider it differently from how you intend the message to come across, especially if your ex currently has strong feelings for the new person.
Would be best if you could get a mutual friend to relay the message instead of you. Hi I just came out of nc and my ex is seeing someone. I sent her the elephant in the room text. She did not respond to the text instead she came to the place I live angry at me crying saying that I me ruined everything. I told her I think we need more time apart before we can speak. A week later she unblocks me on whatsapp and when I text her she told me I must go speak to her in person.
I want to know how do I approach this?
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Her New Boyfriend (Without Looking Desperate)
Go along with meeting her in person and decide again based on how she responds to you. It does seem that she still has feelings for you, but hasn't let go of the past yet to treat you normally. Me and my girlfriend of 5 years broke up after both parts doing wrong stuff. We really loved each other and she would sleep on my house everynight. But dring the last year we stared having some arguments and she did some wrong stuff including messaging his first boyfriend. I wanted to stop being with her but she really wanted to stay with me, appologising and really showing real effort to keep our relationship.
The problem was that i never really got over it and started treating her differently and basicly she lost connection and gave up, even with me loving her a lot and showing it too. She then went on a dinner with her friends and it lead to stop talking to me for days. When i talked with her she said she needed space and she was sorry.
Part 2: Doing No Contact When She is with Her New Boyfriend
Then we talked again and she said she wanted to be with me, but i asked her to fisrt explain what was happening with her because she was not the same and i was desperate and trying everything to be good with her. That night we had sex and we were really good talking until i flipped and said that i needed to sleep. We talked after and she said again she needed some space to understand everything because she said she didn't know and was feelling really depressed , the thing is that after that I acted too insecure and clingy, she would talk to me and say she lved me and i was her best friend, but she didn't love me as boyfriend like she used to.
I asked her out believe after too much pressure already and she broke up with me. We stopped talking for 17 of june until she texted me asking for sending some numbers she really needed for work. I gave it to her but then acted too needy again stupid she talked and said she was still in my life. I said goodbye and she said we could talk, "why goodbye?
On 17 of july. I just found this now because obviously i would not do this stupid mistakes. I believe i still have a chance and now that i read this i feel much good with myself. I need to start NC once again right?